Friday, 21 August 2009

"More parents have filed applications at the Tribunal for the Maintenance of
Parents in the last 12 months, a 72 percent jump from the usual annual rate of
100 cases."

i read the above news yesterday and can't help but feel despair.. i have a friend
who said that i may look optimistic and always try to be, but deep down i am not..
in PM speech last week, he was talking about looking after parents.. i guess he do
sense that singaporeans are throwing their parents out of their house or leave them
to live alone.. i think the number of unpleasant incidents i'd saw somehow turned
me into pessimistic mode.. its not that good things do not happen, but they are
so little compare to the unpleasant..

the news make me think back of the time my relatives suggested to send my late
grandma to the homes.. but my mum insist not to.. she would rather taking care of
her beside working part time and attending to the daily household chores.. i find
that she is only the person who truly care for grandma though she is only grandma's
daughter-in-law.. sadly, dad only believe in giving granny food and a roof over her
head.. the basic neccesity.. he do went over granny's bed to see her sometimes,
send her for medical appointment, but this is really nothing compared to mum..

but sadly again, relatives feel that dad did not show enough care for granny..
dispute after dispute happened when alot more help is needed in looking after
granny.. yet no one is willing to take granny home to look after or even sending
her to dialysis or medical checkup.. i do understand the long hours waiting at the
hospital everytime granny go for her checkup.. but i do not mind at all as i know
she herself do not want us to spent our whole afternoon in the hospital too..
and she do feel sorry that she's holding me up.. she always thanks me
afterward which i also always replied "thats the least i can do ah ma.."

though grandma had passed away, relatives and my parent are still not in good
term.. money is the root of all evil.. as all the disputes that happened had money
involved.. lastly, money is not and should never be a criteria when looking after
one's own parent.. just like how our parent look after us when we're young..
human should focus more on our inner-self now.. the below paragraph sum it all..

"Our problems, both those we experience externally such as wars, crime and
violence and those we experience internally as emotional and psychological
suffering will not be solved until we address this underlying neglect of our inner
dimension. That is why the great movements of the last hundred years and more
--democracy, liberalism, socialism, and Communism--have all failed to deliver the
universal benefits they were supposed to provide, despite many wonderful ideas.
A revolution is called for, certainly, but not a political, an economic, or a technical
revolution. We have had enough experience of these during the past century to
know that a purely external approach will not suffice. What I propose is a
spiritual revolution. "

- His Holiness the Dalai Lama

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dreamed of racing on 11:31 am

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Thursday, 20 August 2009

一年一度的“好朋友”节日又来了。从昨晚开始大街小巷就可以看见人们
拿着水果食物来迎接这些亲朋好友，也都很慷慨的给他们捐款。在这一个月
晚上回家的路上，你会害怕担心吗？其实也没什么好怕的，因为他们一直
是存在的，不只是这个月。人只要活得问心无愧，对得起上天和自己的良心，
就不会感到害怕。

前一阵子心情很沉重，过得不是很好。现在轻松了很多。很替aud高兴！
因为她找到了新的工作。福利不错，同事亲切，环境优雅，是很多人向往的。
尤其在这个经济不景气的时候。就连我都有点羡慕她，哈哈。这证明她跟
这公司有缘。我是很相信缘分的。在此我想为她加油，希望她能很快的
适应新的工作，并且在未来的发展有很好的成绩。

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dreamed of racing on 3:17 pm

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Friday, 14 August 2009

One day during meditation, I was contemplating global warming... With some anguish,
I asked Nature this question: "Nature, do you think we can rely on you?" I asked
the question because I know Nature is "intelligent", she knows how to react,
sometimes violently, to re-establish balance. And I heard the answer in the form of
another question: "Can I rely on you?" The question was being put back to me:
can Nature rely on humans? And after long, deep [mindful] breathing, I said "Yes,
you can mostly rely on me." And then I heard Nature's answer, "Yes, you can also
mostly rely on me." That was a very deep conversation I had with Nature...

- Thich Nhat Hanh

years ago, i had heard news reporting the earth climate changing drastically..
weeks of non-stop raining during the hottest season of the year.. sudden snowing
during summer in china etc.. nature disasters happening more frequently..
we're killing ourselves slowly.. nah.. no longer slowly now..

with US not reducing its CO2 emission, Indonesia blaming on "nature forest fire"..
and most importantly, human greed and ignorant, living like there's no tomorrow..
i start to wonder should i have children.. scientists predict that by 2050, most
of coasts around the world will be flooded from the melting Arctic ice cap..
Bangladesh is almost totally inundated and the East Indies wil be reduced to a few
scrappy islands.. tens of millions stand on the brink of death..
source from commondreams

will you still give birth after realising that the future is terrible for your child..
and i bet you'd heard more of this phrase "the worst xxx ever happened.." the latest
is the mudslide.. it used to be "the worst tsunami ever happened in Indonesia.."
get prepared for "the worse earthquakes ever...", "the worst typhoon.." etc..
and say meteorologists, it now looks as if there is nothing we can do about it..

i believe all of us can help in playing a part to save earth.. save energy, switched off
lights even in office after work.. i know there're people who don't care cos they're
not paying the bills.. save water, recycle, eat less meat.. i'd tried to maintaining a
half vegetarian life.. by going vegetarian during lunch.. but sometimes i was pull
back by the cheap $1.90 chicken rice or mix vege rice.. sigh.. nevertheless, i still
had my vegetarian lunch today..

global warming had become so bad that even if we stop all future damage (which
is impossible), earth temperature will still continue to rise as heat and carbon dioxide
trapped in the oceans may take hundreds of years to be re-emitted.. 18% to 35%
of a sample of 1,103 animal and plant species would be extinct by 2050, based on
future climate projections..
source from wikipedia..

by 2050, i'll be 70.. who know by then Singapore might be inundated.. i guess its
still wiser to get a PR somewhere else before the sharks eat me up..



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dreamed of racing on 3:30 pm

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