Sunday, 27 February 2011

小时候爸爸带我们出门，车里都是播放福建歌曲，到现在才能真正感受到其中的歌词..

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dreamed of racing on 4:50 pm

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Friday, 25 February 2011

I can see it in your eyes
You’ve had a long day
Let’s lock the door
And pull down the shades
Turn some music on
Pour a glass of sweet red wine
Let the candles burn
Put your hand... in mine

Dance with me
Don’t say a word
Just dance with me
Let the world outside disappear
Baby what we got here, is all we need
Dance with me

I kiss you goodbye, in the early mornin light
Sometimes I don’t get home until it is cold and dark outside
Baby here we are, we’re together all alone
We finally found a moment...we can call our own

Dance with me
Don’t say a word
Just dance with me
Let the world outside disappear
Baby what we got here is all we need
Dance with me
Just close your eyes and dance with me
Hold on tight, let’s take it slow and don’t let go
Dance with me

Dance with me
Don’t say a word
Just dance with me
Let the world outside disappear
Baby what we got here, is all we need
Dance with me....dance with me.....dance with me

Dance With Me by Johnny Reid
Album: Dance With Me (2009)
written by Victoria Banks/Johnny Reid/Tia Sillers

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dreamed of racing on 9:53 am

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Thursday, 24 February 2011

worrying is like a rocking chair,
it gives u something to do but it doesn't get u anywhere..

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dreamed of racing on 8:23 pm

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Saturday, 19 February 2011

it was the time of the year where i went back to "wayang" for singapore..
from now onward, i would say that i actually look forward to reservist..
cos i'm outta field training.. by right i shouldn't go to the field due to
my pes status..

anyway, now i'm being assigned into the psp team and being tasked to send
the 5, 10 years good service medal award to our fellow ns men.. its an easy
task.. basically just driving around sg.. so yes, no more stay in.. =)

i was planning my route as usual when i heard my fellow mates talking about
massages, night clubs etc.. and they were discussing about the various outlets,
girls etc.. and around my age, most of them are either married or attached..

i seems to hear most of these stories during reservist time.. does it mean that
men are more open about these topic to their army mates? i do have friends
who frequent these special massage but few would talk to me about it..
now i think back, partly its because i'm not one of their type..

i do admit that a lot of guys can't seems to resist the temptation.. i have
a close friend, a decent chap who told me that he did visit one of the night club
once with his friends and the girls there are so pretty, so sweet, and know exactly
how to cheer you up and make you happy.. unlike your wife who start nagging once
you stepped home.. haha.. but then again, nagging mean she care about you isn't it..
just don't do it too often.. ^^

he did lose some control of himself at first but in the end, he still stay
faithful to his wife.. he did feel a bit of guilt and said its best to avoid
these places as the temptation is too strong.. from the way he describe,
its seems like no ordinary man can resist once they went to such places..

i myself had also visited those ktv once with 2 friends in batam.. both of them
wanted to go and it would be a turn off if i didn't join them.. honestly, i do not
enjoy myself.. i feel that something is missing.. maybe i'm more traditional and
feel that all these are so superficial..

to me, there's only one girl that is worth my kiss and hugs, that is my gf or
my future wife.. i feel that its a money not well spent at all..

integrity and self-control are the keys to stay faithful.. not only men, women
nowadays are looking for guys.. there's a recent news on the paper that more
women are looking for male escorts.. there're no right and wrong.. its up to
individual perception and education..

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dreamed of racing on 12:17 am

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Saturday, 12 February 2011

天凉了 雨下了 你走了
清楚了 我爱的 遗失了
落叶飘在湖面上睡着了

想要放 放不掉 泪在飘
你看看 你看看不到
我假装过去不重要
却发现自己办不到

说了再见 才发现再也见不到
我不能就这样失去你的微笑
口红待在桌角 而你我找不到
若角色对调你说好不好

说了再见 才发现再也见不到
能不能 就这样 忍着痛 泪不掉
说好陪我到老 永恒往哪里找
再次拥抱一分一秒都好

你的笑 你的好 脑海里 一直在绕
我的手 忘不了 你手的温度
心碎了一地 捡不回从前的心跳
身陷过去我无力逃跑


说了再见－周杰伦　作词：古小力/黄凌嘉　作曲：周杰伦　编曲：钟兴民
专辑：《跨时代》　发行：2010年05月18日

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dreamed of racing on 11:43 pm

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Thursday, 10 February 2011

我已背上一身苦困后悔与唏嘘
你眼里却此刻充满泪..
这个世界已不知不觉的空虚 Woo…
不想你别去...

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dreamed of racing on 11:14 pm

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你很独立 任何问题都会自己解决
因此当你面对爱情时
你也不会请教他人 或找朋友帮助
凡事都让自己去寻找答案
别人可能认为你想太多
但在情人眼里 你却是完全地简单透彻
不会因外人的意见 而污染自己的想法

在《我报》测试的一个爱情分析
太独立其实不好 不懂如何处理问题时
往往做出不正确的决定 而悔不当初

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dreamed of racing on 6:00 pm

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Wednesday, 9 February 2011

What, why and how
you do anything
reflects a part of you..

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dreamed of racing on 11:15 pm

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Tuesday, 8 February 2011

its was a cool nite due to the season.. a lot of people didn't make it for the
gathering.. 10 yrs ago, i will be quite disappointed, cos have not been meeting
some of them for quite some times.. but now i "see very open".. :)

jason bring along a friend, forgotten her name.. haha.. so its juz the 4 of us,
sitting on the stone chair, snacking and chatting away.. i brought some cny
snacks..

it had been quite long since i step on the wave breaker.. so i left them and
start walking toward the sea.. suddenly, a song came into my mind and the music
start ringing.. "deng deng deng deng... deng deng deng deng..."



during my poly life, i quite crazy over wu bai.. i imitate his hair style,
his singing.. haha.. some of my poly fren even nick name me wu bai.. but of cos,
i can only imitate, there's no way i can sing as good as him..

“海上的 船螺声已经响起 对你犹原情绵绵 今日要来离开..”

as i start singing, i stop walking.. standing still, looking at the wave breaker
in front of me.. and for no reason, i start tearing.... i duno.. can be many
reasons.. the sad song, the wave breaker, memories.. i look up into the sky
gazing at the stars which i always do.. at the same time holding on to my tears..

after 5 mins or so, i start walking toward the wave breaker.. this wave breaker
leave me deep memories.. it was i who bring the wlny people here.. it was where
i had sweet memories and sad memories..

i stay at the wave breaker for 15 mins before heading back.. the sky was clear..
the stars are bright.. it was a lovely night..

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dreamed of racing on 4:41 pm

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Monday, 7 February 2011

You Are In Two Places at Once

Because we are both physical and quantum, human beings live multidimensional lives.
At this moment you are in two places at once. One is the visible, sensual world,
where your body is subject to all the forces of nature “out there.” The wind chaps
your skin and the sun burns it; you will freeze to death in winter without shelter;
and the assault of germs and viruses makes your cells sick.

But you also occupy the quantum world, where all these things change. If you get
into the bathtub, your consciousness doesn’t get wet. The limitations of physical
life count for much less in the quantum world, and often for nothing. The cold of
winter doesn’t freeze your memories; the heat of a July night doesn’t make you
sweat in your dreams.

Put together all the quantum events in your cells and the sum total is your quantum
mechanical body, which operates according to its own unseen physiology. Your quantum
mechanical body is awareness in motion and is part of the eternal field of awareness
that exists at the source of creation.

The intelligence inside us radiates like light, crossing the border between the
quantum world and the physical world, unifying the two in a constant subatomic
dialogue. Your physical body and your quantum mechanical body can both be called
home – they are like parallel universes that you travel between without even
thinking about it.

Physical Body: A frozen anatomical sculpture – “I” sees itself as made of cells,
tissues, and organs; confined in time and space; driven by biochemical processes
(eating, breathing, digestion, etc.)

Quantum Mechanical Body: A river of intelligence constantly renewing itself – “I”
sees itself as made of invisible impulses of intelligence; unbounded in time and
space; driven by thoughts, feelings, wishes, memories, etc.

Adapted from Ageless Body, Timeless Mind, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1998).

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dreamed of racing on 11:56 am

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Did The Universe Have A Creator?

From “Why ‘Intelligent Design’ Lacks Intelligence (The Daily Enlightenment Book 3)”,
“Ironically, if it is a rule that ‘there must be a creator’, it means that this
uncreated rule precedes the ‘creator’. This rule, being a law of nature, implies that
nature precedes the ‘creator’, that no ‘creator’ can precede nature.

Since nature precedes the ‘creator’, the ‘creator’ is of course not the ‘creator’
of nature. This simple proof shows that no one can create nature, and that there can
be no ‘creator’.” Nature thus naturally ‘is’, while it allows for natural and willed
(d)evolution of its inhabitants and the universe itself.

A ‘creator’ by definition is not the created. But what if there is a ‘creator’ who is
part of nature? If ‘he’ is part of nature, how can ‘he’ create it? For instance,
a painted character in a painting cannot paint the whole painting, that includes
‘himself’.

The painter cannot be (part of) that painted. The painter must precede the painting,
just as the ‘creator’ before nature. Yet, there cannot be a ‘creator’ who precedes
nature, as shown by the proof in the excerpt. And if a ‘creator’ is already part of
nature, there will be no need (or ability) to create nature. This again proves there
can be no ‘creator’.

Also, to say a ‘creator’ is part of nature means ‘his’ essence is (omnipresent)
within nature. The immeasurable suffering due to countless natural disasters in
history however implies that if such a ‘creator’ exists, ‘he’ is not omnipotent,
omni-benevolent or omniscient, as ‘he’ fails (to know how) to prevent any disaster
with ‘his’ power, compassion and wisdom.

Are we, if we are the created, instead to blame for such suffering? Surely, the
inherent faults or fallibility of a ‘creator’s creation’ arise from the ‘maker’,
and not from the created. So it seems, as the Buddha suggested, such a ‘creator’
idea was created from the lack of enlightenment.

We (re)create ourselves and the universe
from moment to moment with our
individual and collective thoughts, words and deeds.

- Stonepeace

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dreamed of racing on 10:50 am

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Friday, 4 February 2011

她做了她觉得对的选择
我只好祝福她真的对了

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dreamed of racing on 6:16 pm

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Wednesday, 2 February 2011

希望别人成为自己心目中理想的对象比较辛苦呢？”还是去成为别人理想的对象比较辛苦”?
请再看一遍这个问题，并仔细想一想。

Sis Shenton我思索这个问题许久。一开始，我不不假思假思索地回答：“肯定是去改变另
一个人比较辛苦，改变自己应该容易多了吧！”因为至少这改变是在自己的掌控中。只要
有恒心有毅力，要达到目标应该不会太难，但要去改变其他人，很可能会让对方和自己都
很辛苦。

但我后来再想了一想，又有了不一样的答案。我们或许都有过这种经历：当无法达到父母
对我们的要求和期待时；当无法实现另一半的希望时……且不论要让别人达到自己心目中的
要求有多难，可以很肯定的是，要使自己成为别人理想的对象，也实在是一件非常辛苦的事！

严以待人 宽以待己
有个太太投诉老公在家只顾着上Facebook，对她从不会主动嘘寒问问暖暖。她很希望老公
能改变这种态度，多多与她沟通，帮她分担家务，但半年多了情况一直没有转变，让她
觉得备受冷落，甚至想要结束这段婚姻。

当辅导员与她聊到很多生活细节，才发现她的婚姻问题并不完全在于另一半，而是她本人。
首先是她要求对方做的事情，自己却做不到。她要求老公不上Facebook，不与网友聊天，
不玩网上游戏，但她却照玩Facebook，而且很神秘，完全不让老公知道她的网友是谁。

其次，当老公和她谈一些事情时，她很快地就会感到烦躁发脾气，接着就吵架了。别说
对老公愿意沟通的行为给予鼓励、赞美›连听老公讲话›她都显得很不耐烦。这也难怪她的老公
会为了避免争吵而宁可保持沉默做一个面对电脑的聋子和瞎子›至少电脑不会拒绝你、挖苦你、
攻击你。这么看来›该改变的是谁呢”？

改变的最大动力
很多在婚姻中挣扎求存的男女都有一个盲点，就是想要改变对方。当你发出疑问“为什么他
不再是当初那个能为我改变一切的他”时，有没有自问：“我是否还是那个能让他改变的
原动力？”当你说“他不爱我了”时，有没有先问“我做了什么努力让他继续加倍地爱我？”

当你说“他让我无法忍受”时，你是否有反省自己其实也有一些习惯是对方难以配合却不曾逼你
改变的？很多人想要改变目前的生活状态›自己却不想做出任何改变›这其实是一种自欺欺人的
心态。不论是对别人还是自己，只有爱和接纳›才是促动改变的最大动力。

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dreamed of racing on 11:38 am

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Have you ever felt angry and didn’t want to speak to someone ever again for
hurting your feelings? It’s a common scenario: someone says something that’s rude,
wrongly accuses us of doing something wrong, or in some other way makes us get
reactive or defensive.

This can take us to the point where we most certainly don’t want to wish them well.
But does harboring dislike, revenge, even hate, do us any favors? Does it really
make us feel better in the long run or does it just get us more stressed?

It’s definitely important that we acknowledge what we are feeling—all the anger,
unfairness, and aversion—and really honor how hurt we are. Repressing our feelings
means they’ll most likely just come up again at some point, probably when another
situation triggers a similar response.

But negative emotions can sap our energy, especially when we hold on to them.
And they spread like wildfire, soon affecting our behavior and attitudes towards
other people, like a single match that can burn down an entire forest.

And they create an emotional bond with the abuser that keeps our feelings alive,
so that we keep replaying the drama and conflict over in our heads, justifying
our own behavior and disregarding theirs. In the process we become a not very
nice person.

Anger, aggression and bitterness are like thieves in the night who steal our
ability to love and care. Is it possible to turn that negativity around and
chill out so we can wish our abuser well, without necessarily needing to know
them as a friend again? This may sound challenging and absurd but it can make
life’s difficulties far more tolerable. How can we do this?

1. Recognize no one harms another unless they are in pain themselves.
Ever noticed how, when you’re in a good mood, it’s hard for you to harm or
hurt anything? You may even take the time to get an insect out of the sink.
But if you’re stressed or in a bad mood, then how easy it is to wash it down
the drain.

2. No one can hurt you unless you let them. Hard to believe, as no one
actually wants to be hurt but it’s true. When someone hurts us, we are inadvertently
letting them have an emotional hold over us. Instead, as spiritual teacher Byron
Katie often says: If someone yells at you, let them yell, it makes them happy!

3. Respect yourself enough that you want to feel good. Deb did this with her
father, an abusive and angry man. She made the decision that she wouldn’t respond
to him with negativity, so she turned it around within herself and continued to
wish him well. He died recently and Deb was able to feel total closure.

4. Consider how you may have contributed to the situation. It’s all too easy
to point fingers and blame the perpetrator but no difficulty is entirely one-sided.
So contemplate your piece in the dialogue or what you may have done to add fuel
to the fire. Even when he feels he is 100 percent right, Ed always looks at a
difficulty to see what was his part in it.

5. Extend kindness. That doesn’t mean you’re like a doormat that lets others
trample all over you while you just lie there and take it. But it does mean letting
go of negativity sooner than you might have done before, so that you can replace
it with compassion. Like an oyster that may not like that irritating grain of sand
in its shell but manages to transform the irritation into a beautiful and precious
pearl.

6. Meditate. Meditation takes the heat out of things and helps you cool off,
so you don’t over react. A daily practice we use is where we focus on a person
we may be having difficulty with or is having a difficulty with us. We hold them
in our hearts and say: May you be well! May you be happy! May all things go
well for you!

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dreamed of racing on 10:37 am

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Tuesday, 1 February 2011

白发三千丈，缘愁似个长。
不知明镜里，何处得秋霜？

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dreamed of racing on 11:18 am

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I cannot tell you how many times I have watched friends get so absorbed in a
relationship and change in some drastic way and lose themselves. I, of course
have never done this! (I can hear my friends Victoria and Lori rolling with
laughter right now).

I can remember being so drawn into the other person’s life and habits that I
did lose a little of myself and found myself taking part in activities that
really were not any interest to me. Let’s take that a step farther and actually
admit that I did things that I really did not like at all, but I did them just
to be around my boyfriend and to play the role of the “fun” girlfriend.

In one relationship, my boyfriend loved going to dive bars and playing pool.
This can be fun once in a while, but every other night with all the smoke was
not my cup of tea. Yet I found myself doing this more often than I wanted to
and staying up way too late only to have a difficult time the next day at work.

It is one thing to compromise and do things your partner enjoys doing to be
with them, but it is a another issue if you are continuously losing yourself
and what it is you enjoy doing just to be around the other person. I know that
this can sound “weak”, however I have seen some very strong people get swept
up in someone’s else’s world only to end up unhappy and somewhat lost.

You do not have to lose yourself and who you are to be in a relationship.
As a matter of fact, it is just the opposite. A healthy relationship will
nurture both partners to where the two people will feel balanced and more
themselves.

This is a difficult area to address because when you are in the midst of
getting too wrapped up in a relationship and losing yourself, you are not even
aware of it. Staying balanced and making certain that you are still doing
those things that you have always enjoyed can be tricky. It will require
discipline to maintain YOU while being with someone.

This is where your trusted friends can come in to help you out. Share with
them that you would like for them to communicate to you if they see you losing
yourself or doing things that are out of character for you. The key is that
when they let you know this, you will need to be receptive to their feedback.
Being willing to do something about it is important as well.

I believe that we all know when we are behaving in a dysfunctional way or
in a way that does not honor ourselves, but for some reason we get hooked into
the drama of doing it anyway. Having the inner discipline to walk away from
situations like this or changing the dynamic of a relationship when it has
already been established is tricky.

You have to muster up the strength from inside and be determined to do
relationships differently. Doing a relationship with consciousness reaps
benefits that you have probably not experienced. It is deeply empowering.
When you allow yourself to be completely and totally true to who you are,
that is not only strengths your inner core, but will be extremely attractive
to your partner. And if it is not attractive to them or they react with anger,
then it will show you that it is not the right relationship for you.
Remember that YOU are in this relationship too.

Whether you are currently in a relationship or not, this week take some time
to do something that you absolutely LOVE doing. Make it something that you
have not done in awhile. If you are in a relationship that you are getting
lost in, this is the first step to begin finding yourself again. Afterwards,
tune into yourself and feel how good it is to bring forth what you are
passionate about and how empowering it is for your spirit.

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dreamed of racing on 10:08 am

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