Wednesday, 27 July 2011

目を闭じて 何も见えず
哀しくて 目を开ければ
荒野に向かう道より
他に见えるものはなし

呜呼 砕け散る
宿命の星たちよ
せめて密やかに
この身を照せよ

我は行く
苍白き颊のままで
我は行く
さらば 昴よ

息をすれば 胸の中
こがらしは 鸣き続ける
されど我が胸は热く
梦を追い続けるなり

呜呼 さんざめく
名も无き星たちよ
せめて鲜やかに
その身を终われよ

我も行く
心の命ずるままに
我も行く
さらば 昴よ

呜呼 いつの日か
谁かがこの道を
呜呼 いつの日か
谁かがこの道を

我は行く
苍白き頬のままで
我は行く
さらば 昴よ

我は行く
さらば 昴よ

昴：谷村新司 词曲：谷村新司　发行：1980年

me o tojite nanimo miezu
kanashikute me o akereba
kohoya ni mukau miti yori
hoka ni mieru mono wa nashi

aaa... kudake tiru sadame no hoshi tati yo
semete hisoyaka ni kono mi o terase yo

ware wa yuku aojiroki hoho no mama de
ware wa yuku saraba subaru yo

iki o saraba mune no naka
kogarashi wa naki tsuzukeru
saredo wa ga mune wa atsuku
yume o oitsuzukeru nari

aaa... sanza meku namonaki hoshi tatiyo
semete azayaka ni sono mi o oware yo

ware mo yuku kokoro no meizuru mama ni
ware mo yuku saraba subaru yo

aaa.... itsu no hi ka dareka ga kono miti o
aaa.... itsu no hi ka dareka ga kono miti o

ware wa yuku aojiroki hoho no mama de
ware wa yuku saraba subaru yo

ware wa yuku saraba subaru yo


English translation (edited by me)

I closed my eyes, feeling lost
I looked up in dejection, surrounded by sadness
There's only one way to the wilds
Where can I find the direction

Ah, the scattered stars illuminate the sky guiding me
Shining silently, shining upon me

I set out on my journey, silver starlight shines on my face
I set out on my journey, goodbye my star of faith

A sense of misery crept into my heart
The autumn wind keep whistling
Even so, my heart holds on the passions
To keep on pursuing my dream

Ah, beautiful stars clusters
Shining brightly despite having no name
Never be silent, never give up
Shining and lighting up our lives

I am also seting out on my journey, guide by my heart
I set out on my journey, goodbye my star of faith

Ah, when will someone follow my path
Ah, when will someone follow my path

I set out on my journey, silver moonlight shines on my face
I set out on my journey, goodbye my star of faith

I set out on my journey, goodbye my star of faith


中文配译：新亭

星

阖起了双眼，心中尽茫然。
黯然抬头望，满目照悲凉。
只有一条道路通向了荒野，
哪里能够找到前面的方向？

啊……，散落的群星，
点缀夜空指示着命运。
静谧中放射出光明，
蓦然照亮我的身影。

我就要出发，
脸上映着银色的星光。
我就要启程，
辞别吧，命运之星！

凄凉的气息，吹入我胸中。
阵阵秋风来，呼啸声不停。
可是我心头不灭的是热情，
每时每刻追寻梦中的憧憬。

啊……，璀璨的群星，
纵然无名也要闪晶莹。
不沉寂从来不放弃，
迸出华彩点燃生命！

我也要出发，
照着心的指引去远行。
我也要启程，
辞别吧，命运之星！

啊……，什么时候啊，
有谁也曾来到这路上？
啊……，什么时候啊，
有谁也会循着这去向？

我就要出发，
脸上映着银色的星光。
我就要启程，
辞别吧，命运之星！

我就要启程，
辞别吧，命运之星！

谷村新司，这位日本歌手强！小时候听过《另一种乡愁》，原来就是他的创作。
后来发现他其实写了很多首响当当的歌曲被很多歌手翻唱。比如张学友的《遥远的她》，
张国荣的《共同度过》，梅艳芳《孤身走我路》等等。

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Tuesday, 19 July 2011

Starry, starry night
Paint your palette blue and gray
Look out on a summer's day
With eyes that know the darkness in my soul
Shadows on the hills
Sketch the trees and the daffodils
Catch the breeze and the winter chills
In colors on the snowy linen land

Now I understand
What you tried to say to me
How you suffered for your sanity
How you tried to set them free
They would not listen they did not know how
Perhaps they'll listen now

Starry, starry night
Flaming flowers that brightly blaze
Swirling clouds in violet haze
Reflecting Vincent's eyes of China blue
Colors changing hue
Morning fields of amber grain
Weathered faces lined in pain
Are soothed beneath the artist's loving hands

Now I understand
What you tried to say to me
How you suffered for your sanity
How you tried to set them free
They would not listen they did not know how
Perhaps they'll listen now

For they could not love you
But still your love was true
And when no hope was left in sight
On that starry, starry night
You took your life as lovers often do
But I could have told you Vincent
This world was never meant for one as
beautiful as you

Starry, starry night
Portraits hung in empty halls
Frameless heads on nameless walls
With eyes that watch the world and can't forget
Like the strangers that you've met
The ragged men in ragged clothes
A silver thorn on a bloody rose
Lie crushed and broken on the virgin snow

Now I think I know
What you tried to say to me
How you suffered for your sanity
How you tried to set them free
They would not listen they're not listening still
Perhaps they never will

Vincent by Don McLean
Writtten by Don McLean
Album: American Pie
Released: October 1971

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Wednesday, 13 July 2011

从小我就是个重感情的人。但也因为感情，让我真正的成长，让我经历了
人生最甜蜜也最痛苦的日子。虽然我的感情路走得非常的坎坷，经历了很多
人一辈子或许都不曾经历过的。我学会迁就，学会忍让，甚至为爱情失去
尊严，最后遍体鳞伤。。。

我有过三段感情，第一段维持了一年多，第二段四年多，第三段也是一年多。
第二段和第三段感情让我成长了很多也领悟了很多。后来有认识到一些对象，
但是都有缘无份。我知道自己人缘不好。很多时候非常羡慕那些双双对对的
情侣，只可惜我没有这个福分。

2004年..

我来到了海星天主教中学就职学校里的电脑人员。这是我第一份与我专业
有关的工作，虽然薪水不高但是工作还算愉快。

我在学校里认识了一位中文教师，后来和她发展了我第二段感情。她叫燕，
来自天津，个子不高，是可爱型的女生。起初我不知道她在国内已经有男朋友，
后来知道了就没有和她那么频繁的联系。但她说对男朋友已经没有感情，
她跑来新加坡教书也就是为了逃避男朋友。我单纯的相信她并在几个月后
和她正式成为男女朋友。

后来学校假期她回国和她的男朋友结婚了，当时的我非常难过，痛苦流泪...
虽然她说她和他结婚是为了冲喜，因为他男朋友的妈妈快不行了。我们新加坡人
或许会觉得很荒谬，但是在中国确实有这样的习俗。后来她又回来新加坡和我
解释，说她已经对他的“丈夫”没有任何感情，结婚只是形式。要我等她办离婚。

这样一等就等了四年多...

这四年，她跟我说了很多次她会尽快离婚，但是每一年她从中国回来都跟我
说还没办离婚。2009年1月..他从中国回来新加坡还是告诉我说我们还不能
结婚，我这次真的绝望了。我跟她说，对不起，我等不下去了，我们分手吧。
后来她说她是想把脸上的黑斑治好才和我结婚，并不是不想和我结婚。
无论什么原因，都已经是过去了。

2009年5月，我和一个叫秀的女孩在一起。从一年多前认识她，我就知道
她是一个很会调情的女孩，还是朋友的时候，她就常常和不同的男人调请。
和她在一起，她说会改，我信以为真。其实一个人要改变，根本没有那么
容易。每次和她吵架，她都会找男生倾诉。有一次我们吵架提分手，
她竟然和打她的前男友发生了一夜情。这件事令我非常的痛心，因为我
非常讨厌他的前男友。这个男人不但打她，分手后还说如果他有需要，
可不可以找她。这种男人你说是不是人渣！

因为爱她，我原谅了她。我们和好后她总是怀疑我，觉得我会对她不忠，
对其他女人调请。我很难过，因为这证明她一点也不了解我。我根本就
不是这样的人。她甚至用一张美女的照片，弄了一个假的friendster户口，
然后加我和我调请，看我会不会背叛她。结果她失败了，因为我没有和
那位假美女调请。他还加了我好多其他的男性朋友，并且和他们调请。
我有些朋友都上钩，和她调请。当我拆穿她后，因为爱她，我再次地
原谅她。

还有一次，她和我吵架后和朋友去酒吧clubbing，结果刚巧被我的朋友撞到，
我朋友把她坐在男人大腿上的照片拍下来传了给我。因为爱她，我警告她
再也不可以和男人有肌肤接触后又再原谅她。

还有她在网络上和很多男人的调请谈话，最后我做了个结论，就是因为她
就是这样的一个人，喜欢和异性接触调请，所以也会认为我也会像她那样
和其他的女人调请。事实上我的女性朋友不多，有保持联系的就更少，
一只手都算不完，

我明白后，加上后来她对我各种过分的要求，我决定离开她。我想我和
她性格真的差太远。我不希望，以后我们结婚后，和她吵架，她就去找
其他男人安慰。

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Friday, 8 July 2011

心若改变，你的态度跟着改变。
态度改变，你的习惯跟着改变。
习惯改变，你的性格跟着改变。
性格改变，你的人生跟着改变。

想改变人生唯有从心做起，万法唯心造。

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Thursday, 7 July 2011

4 ways to a better relationship



When the early-love buzz wears off and a couple becomes comfortable, the polite gestures
and words that were de rigueur in the beginning fall by the wayside. But it turns out
that kindness is the glue that keeps couples together. Follow these four easy rules and
you'll both wind up feeling more loved, valued, and appreciated.

Say Good Morning

When the alarm starts blaring, rather than blindly slapping the snooze button or
stumbling to the bathroom in a fog, try turning to your guy and saying "Good morning!"
Research indicates that 94 percent of couples who do this every day rate their
relationships as excellent. In contrast, couples who rarely hear the phrase describe
their relationships as below average.

What makes these two words so magical? When you wish your man a good morning, what
you're really saying is that it's a good morning because you are together. And
affirming your feelings in the a.m. lays the groundwork for positive communication
all day.

Acknowledge Expected Acts of Kindness

There are things your guy does for you (rubbing your feet, bringing you a cup of coffee
in bed), and there are things he does for the relationship (taking out the garbage,
walking the dog). We're pretty good about thanking the men in our lives for the stuff
they do explicitly for us, but we tend to drop the ball when it comes to the gestures
that benefit them too.

Because these random acts of thoughtfulness improve your life and the relationship as
a whole, it's important to acknowledge them. Try adding these two powerful words to
the end of your sentence: "Thank you for picking up the milk for us." If you reaped
any benefits from his action, you have something to be thankful for.

Praise Each Other in Public

Guys will rarely ask, "How does my stomach look in this shirt?" so it may not even
occur to you that men crave compliments as much as women do. And while certain types
of praise should be bestowed only in private (such as the toe-curling sex you had last
night), public accolades are especially meaningful because they send the message that
you're proud to be with your guy and you want the world to know it.

No need to gush—it will embarrass him. Just stick to sincere compliments that are
specific to him and appeal to his masculinity. Saying something like "It's amazing
that you were able to fix my laptop and drive your mother to the airport before work
this morning" will make him feel appreciated and loved.

Don't Cut Him Off

Conventional wisdom was upset when research published in the journal Science found
that guys are, by nature, just as chatty as women are. If the man in your life isn't
much of a talker, it may be because he can't get a word in edgewise.

A major reason men clam up is because they're with a partner who constantly interrupts
them. It often happens when you think you already know what he's going to say or you
jump to answer his first point before he's had the chance to finish his sentence. Other
times, you may do it because you think he's dead wrong. But know this: If one partner
is silent, it's usually because they're withdrawing emotionally, which means the
relationship is on the decline. In a healthy relationship, both partners need to feel
heard.

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Unload Your Emotional Baggage



Even if you’re over your ex, your romantic history has a funny (in a sick sort of way)
tendency of creeping into life with your new partner. “The relationships we invest in
the most, regardless of how long we were in them or how long ago they happened, are the
ones that have the biggest impact on us,” says Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., a research professor
at the Institute for Social Research at the University of Michigan and author of 5
Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great. “And if things went awry in those
relationships, we often carry the anger or insecurity into our subsequent romances.”

So how do you prevent the past from coming back to haunt you? Claim your baggage by
coming clean to your current mate (sparing him the dirty details, of course). According
to a study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, people experienced
a heightened sense of intimacy after revealing personal info, such as their ex-related
issues, and felt more valued and supported. Forge ahead by following this advice.

Baggage: Your Partner Cheated on You

Almost anything your guy does that’s not completely straightforward will evoke feelings
of distrust, explains JoAnn Magdoff, Ph.D., a psychotherapist in New York City. People
who were cheated on in the past may find themselves setting traps and checking on their
new partner, asking them questions they know the answers to, and assuming their partner
is lying. You may end up jumping down his throat and accusing him of things he didn’t do,
which may understandably infuriate him and ultimately threaten your union, says
psychologist Christie Hartman, Ph.D., author of It’s Not Him, It’s You: The Truth You
May Not Want but Need to Hear.

Unload it: Make it clear that while your trust issues have nothing to do with him,
you equate his vagueness with being lied to. “Tell him that because of your past, you
assume the worst when he’s unclear,” says Magdoff, and that keeping you in the loop and
being specific will go a long way toward helping you feel more connected and secure.
This will translate into more happiness for you both.

Baggage: Your Last Guy Had a Bad Temper

Anyone who’s dated a yeller and screamer is going to want to avoid confrontation in a
subsequent relationship because they’re scared of a nasty fight breaking out. But anger
is a necessary emotion, and both parties need to be able to express it appropriately.

“Instead of understanding that conflict is an important part of all relationships,
someone who had an angry partner might see disagreements as a sign the relationship
is headed for trouble,” says Orbuch.

Unload it: Accept your anger—and his. “What’s important is how you disagree,
not whether you disagree,” says Orbuch. Rather than recoiling or biting your tongue
during a disagreement, step back and take a break. Sweat away the anger (and clear your
head) on a run, or agree to take a 10-minute walk around the block and then regroup.
This will defuse some of the hostility, giving you a more comfortable environment to
air your grievances.

Baggage: Your Ex Criticized Your Looks

It’s easy to understand how someone who was called ugly or fat-assed by an ex might
have trouble accepting a new dude’s compliments. Because romantic relationships carry
such powerful meaning and weight—and because a romantic partner sees you without your
clothes on—criticism within the context of intimacy can be particularly damaging,
explains Thomas Bradbury, Ph.D., codirector of the Relationship Institute at the
University of California at Los Angeles. “Even the most confident people can feel a
painful twinge if an intimate partner criticizes their appearance. These comments can
cut you to the core,” he says. If a past partner made disparaging remarks about your
weight, you may feel uncomfortable eating in front of your new man or showing off your
body, which may cause you to avoid sex and intimacy altogether, says Orbuch.

Unload it: Know that your ex’s slams were much more about him than you. “Anyone
who insults or criticizes a partner in this way is massively insecure and is making a
desperate attempt to cover up a deep sense of inferiority,” says Hartman. Translation:
He may not have thought those things about you but felt compelled to cut you down to
prop himself up. To make sure you take your new guy’s loving words to heart, stop
yourself from dismissing his praise and affection. “There’s only one way to handle
a compliment: Say thank you, and mean it,” says Hartman. “After a while, the kind words
will sink in.”

Baggage: You Dated a Partyer

Because your last boyfriend left you high and dry to booze it up with his buddies,
you may become clingy, bossy, or prone to nagging your new guy—in other words, a pretty
big buzzkill. You could even become a teetotaler, choosing to avoid parties and any
social scenario where alcohol is involved because of your ex and his habits, says Orbuch.

Unload it: Before you bust out the at-home Breathalyzer, take a moment to analyze
the situation rationally. How many times did he go out this week? Two? And where was
he the other nights? With you? Sounds like a guy who has his priorities straight.

And remind yourself that a person who likes to go out and party with his friends doesn’t
necessarily have a problem, says Magdoff. In fact, it’s totally normal behavior, provided
it doesn’t happen all the time and he’s not coming home and passing out on the bathroom
floor on a regular basis.

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Birth in the heavens might be supremely hedonistic.
Birth in the hells might be supremely ascetic.
Birth in the Pure Lands is supremely the Middle Way.

- Stonepeace

In India at the time the Buddha's time, there was a belief that the purpose of life
was to enjoy as much sensual pleasure as possible. Sensual pleasures are of course
enjoyed through the sense faculties. This ability to experience pleasure through
the senses gives rise to the five desires [for wealth, sex, fame, food and sleep].
In this hedonistic view, failing to fulfill the five desires results in unhappiness.
In reality, however much we may crave and pursue pleasure, we can never completely
satisfy the five desires. Therefore the result of constantly pursuing pleasure is
vexation, not happiness and joy. Furthermore, this behavior ultimately causes
conflict with others, producing more vexation. The sutras describe this kind of
conduct as that of ordinary beings, not sages or saints.

Also prevalent in India at the time was the opposite view, that to become pure,
one needs to undergo extreme pain and suffering – the more pain, the purer one
becomes. Some ascetics had themselves buried in the earth up to their necks; others
would immerse themselves underwater for long periods of time, or hang upside down
from a tree. Even today, in mainland China I saw one person who wore a very heavy
coat in summer but very little in winter in order to inflict suffering on his body.
In Taiwan I saw another person staring directly into the sun for hours. I asked him,
"Why are you doing this?" He said that by staring at the sun he was burning off bad
karma. If such people think they can gain liberation through [extreme] asceticism,
then a furry dog running around on hot summer days can get liberated too.

Shakyamuni Buddha said that if following the path means suffering, the fruit will
inevitably be more suffering. Inflicting suffering and pain on oneself will not
result in liberation. Furthermore, the pains that ascetics inflict on themselves
are not necessarily connected to the vexations they are trying to eliminate, and
inflicting pain on one's body does not necessarily ease mental suffering. The Buddha
therefore taught that the Noble Eightfold Path is the Middle Way between the opposing
extremes of hedonism and asceticism. One needs the basic necessities of life in order
to practice, but on the other hand, one should not merely pursue pleasure for its
own sake. So if one is guided by the Noble Eightfold Path, one will naturally
practice the Middle Way.

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Monday, 4 July 2011

Joke of The Month

A Farmer ...
A farmer walks into an attorney's office to file for a divorce...

Attorney: "May I help you??"
Farmer: "Yeah, I want to get one of those dayvorces."
Attorney: "Well, do you have any grounds?"
Farmer: "Yeah, I got about 140 acres."
Attorney: "No, you don't understand. Do you have a case?"
Farmer: "No, I don't have a Case, but I got a John Deere."
Attorney: "No, you still don't understand! I mean do you have a grudge?"
Farmer: "Yeah I got a grudge! That's where I park my John Deere."
Attorney: "No sir, I mean do you have a suit?"
Farmer: "Yes, sir, I got a suit! I wear it to church on Sundays."
Attorney: "Well, sir, does your wife beat you up or anything?"
Farmer: "Nope, we both get up about 4:30."
Attorney: "Okay, let me put it this way... why do you want a divorce?"
Farmer: "Well, I can never have a meaningful conversation with her."

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Sunday, 3 July 2011

完美的歌曲，完美的歌手，在完美的场合下..



太阳晒得我 眼睛睁不开
你的好脾气 让我心情坏不起来
下雨下得我 眼神发呆
你的道歉 听着听着我都快笑出来

谁说不能 黑白配
世界上没有什么事 能够如此的绝对
曾经有人这样唱过
白天它不懂夜的黑 你却懂得我的美

有时候我会 感觉非常累
有时候也会 不自觉把你拖累
你有时会说 我们很不配
只要你依偎 真的真的我什么都无所谓

谁说不能 黑白配
世界上没有什么事 能够如此的绝对
曾经有人这样唱过
白天它不懂夜的黑 你却懂得我的美

钢琴也是黑白键
一样能弹出我对你 只有满满的感谢
也许黑永远不明白
在这个彩色的世界 有你我才会存在

黑白配－范玮琪　作词：王弘洲/范玮琪　作曲：范玮琪　专辑：我们的纪念日　发行：2006年06月09日

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Friday, 1 July 2011

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