Thursday, 27 October 2011

在朋友那兒听说
知心的你曾回来过
想请他替我向你问候
只为了怕见了说不出口
你对以往的感触还多不多
曾让我心碎的你
我依然深爱著

在朋友那兒听说
知心的你曾找过我
我要他帮我对你隐瞞
只是怕见了面会更难过
我对以往的感触还那么多
曾给我幸福的你
我依然深深爱著

有一种想见不敢见的伤痛
有一种爱还埋藏在我心中
我只能把你放在我的心中

这一种想见不能见的伤痛
让我对你的思念越来越浓
我却只能把你把你放在我心中

对你的声音 你的影 你的手
我发誓说我没有忘記过
而关于你选择了现在的他
我只能说我有些难过
我也真心真意的等过

听说爱情回来过－林忆莲　词曲：李思菘　专辑：LOVE, SANDY　发行：1995年

非常经典的一首歌，或许年轻一代的不知道这首歌是蔡依琳翻唱的，彭佳慧在2000年也翻唱过，
原唱是林忆莲在1995发行的LOVE, SANDY专辑。其实蔡依琳是唱的不错，只是林忆莲把这首歌
诠释得太好了，似乎无可超越了。杨宗纬在2007年的星光大道也唱过这首歌而受好评。

要唱好这首歌的难度还是比较高的，主要是在情感的表达方面，Sandy完全演绎出了那种分手后
还是惦记着旧情人的心情，但是又已经肯定要放弃这段旧情的决心，也就是缠绵中带着坚持的感觉。
加上Sandy独特潇洒的嗓音，更让她能把这首歌的感觉带出来。

听了Sandy的现场演唱，更让我明白了她的实力。若单是听她演唱，是听不出来她在和歌迷互动。
能一心二用，又把歌曲唱得那么好的确不简单。

蔡依林的版本首先是找了林忆莲来独白。在这些年来，我觉得蔡依林的歌唱能力一直有在提升。
虽然在感情处理方面没有林忆莲版本的细腻，但是也有她自己独特的味道。

杨宗纬的版本也是很好，是所有版本最伤感，也比较多哭腔的。那个版本都好，最重要是能打动
你。我个人还是偏爱Sandy的版本。

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Monday, 24 October 2011

月里嫦娥月里家，凤凰展翅走天涯
天涯海角常相忆，宇内新开并蒂花

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Friday, 21 October 2011

第一次听到张宇唱这首《张三的歌》是在2009年的《星光大道》。我觉得他唱得太好了，
甚至比原唱者李寿全还要好。突然很怀念所以去youtube找了一下。

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Monday, 17 October 2011

read this quite some time ago, and can't rem if i posted it up before..
anyway, i came across it again and everyone can be as intelligent as the husband..



A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving
couple and the boy was the apple of their eyes. When the boy was around two years
old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for work so
he asked the wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. The mother,
preoccupied in the kitchen, totally forgot the matter.

The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle and, fascinated with
its color, drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults
in small dosages. When the child collapsed, the mother hurried him to the hospital,
where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband.

When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he
looked at his wife and uttered just four words.

What do you think were the four words?

The husband just said "I Love You Darling"

The husband's totally unexpected reaction is proactive behavior. The child is
dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault
with the mother. Besides, if only he have taken time to keep the bottle away,
this will not have happened. No point in attaching blame. She had also lost
her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy
from the husband. That is what he gave her.

Sometimes we spend time asking who is responsible or who to blame, whether in
a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. We miss out some warmth
in human relationship in giving each other support. After all, shouldn't forgiving
someone we love be the easiest thing in the world to do? Treasure what you have.
Don't multiply pain, anguish and suffering by holding on to forgiveness.

If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much
fewer problems in the world.

Take off all your envies, jealousies, unwillingness to forgive, selfishness,
and fears and you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think...

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Wednesday, 12 October 2011

Eternity

When all images have disappeared at the subtle level, the dying person arrives
at eternity. Eternity is the source of the soul. The rishis say that at last
illusions have ended and reality begins.

The fact that we can’t see eternity while we’re alive, as it extends in all
directions around us, is a limitation the rishis strove to overcome.

The more boundless your vision, the more real you are.

As inspiring as this sounds, it also makes us uneasy, for we are used to living
inside boundaries. As you get closer to eternity, you won’t experience being dead
or alive. You won’t be male or female. A moment will be the same as a century,
and before will merge with after.

Eternity gives you more freedom than the mind can conceive. The absence of images
means you don’t need images anymore. The absence of loved ones means you don’t
need relationships anymore. You are back at your source, but with a difference.
You’ve experienced it all. Creation has shown you everything.

The mind we possess now may recoil, thinking that this must be the ultimate
nightmare. But the rishis, who called this stage Moksha, or liberation, celebrated
it. Only the liberated soul can choose anything. There is no tug up or down,
and the whole mechanism of pleasure and pain grinds to a halt.

What would it feel like to find yourself free? Boundless? Nameless? If you try
to apply any word to the eternal soul – good, holy, loving, truthful – the rishis
respond with “netti,” the Sanskrit word for “not that.”

In fact, in some schools of Vedanta, the spiritual path is called “netti, netti,”
by which you keep repeating “not this, not this,” until by a process of stripping
away you arrive at essence. That’s also what the afterlife journey is about.
The dying person realizes, step-by-step, “This used to be me, but it’s not anymore.”

Adapted from Life After Death: The Burden of Proof, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2006).

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Wednesday, 5 October 2011

Compassion For Your Enemy

The Dalai Lama, the spiritual leader of Tibet, winner of the Nobel Peace Prize,
and probably the world’s most beloved and famous meditator. While he is known for
bringing attention to the plight of the Tibetan people and his pacifist attitude
toward the Chinese, it is less well known that he rises at four a.m. each day to
meditate for at least two hours.

He recounts how a monk, who had been imprisoned by the Chinese for 18 years,
told him that during his imprisonment there were many moments when he was in great
danger. When the Dalai Lama asked what he was in danger from, the monk replied that
he was in danger of losing his compassion for the Chinese, his captors.

This illustrates how compassion is central to a Buddhists understanding of the
meaning of existence. “By developing a sense of respect for others and a concern
for their welfare,” says the Dalai Lama, “we reduce our own selfishness, which is
the source of all problems, and enhance our sense of kindness, which is a natural
source of goodness.”

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Tuesday, 4 October 2011

If a tree falls in a forest, and no one is there to hear it, is there a sound?'
I once asked a friend this classic philosophical and koan-like question through a
text message. A few moments later, he replied, 'I heard it while thinking about it.'
I responded, 'But I already said there was no one there to hear it. Why did you put
yourself there?' Perhaps this is a trick question that cannot be answered properly
with the thinking mind, not unlike trying to 'not think of a pink elephant'!

When my friend read the question, he 'heard' the 'sound', as his mind moved
accordingly to make sense of it by thinking. This is not unlike the case of Zen
Master Huineng, who resolved an argument between two monks on whether it was a flag
or the wind that was moving – by saying that it was their minds that moved. Movement
is so only when perceived by the mind, just as a sound is so only when registered
by the mind through hearing. The mind is the prime 'mover' of experience, with which
we perceive and process sensory inputs.

Does this mean that there was no sound of the falling tree, that the flag and
wind did not move at all? Surprisingly, the answer is a definite 'yes'! A sound is
so only when air vibrations reach one's ears. Since there was no one to receive the
vibrations, they were not translated to be sound by anyone. Likewise, movement in
space and time is defined as so only when there is perception of displacement.
And to do so, one's perception has to be displaced from stillness – to move.

If my friend's mind did not move, he would not hear a mind-made sound. Similarly,
sight is sighted only when light falls upon eyes, smell is smelt only when smelling,
taste is tasted only when tasting, touch is a sensation only when touching, thought
is thought only when thinking. The world perceived through the senses exists only
when sensed. As our sense faculties differ from one to another, though this world
is one, it is experienced differently (but sometimes similarly), subjectively and
dependent on our karma and perception.

This does not mean that the world does not exist if there is no one to perceive it.
An objective world exists beyond our limited senses corrupted by misperception.
This means it is quite pointless to argue over relative experiences such as whether
a sight is beautiful or ugly, or whether a sound is loud or soft, as these would
depend on our varying sensitivities and preferences (attachment and aversion).

Also, some beings have less senses, and some with more refined senses. In insight
meditation, the thinking mind is silenced, so as to realise the nature of reality
by direct non-judgemental mindfulness of whatever transpires. Naked reality is that
seen without movements of the mind, which would blur the perception of things as
they really are.

Direct and pure experience through the senses is enabled. The more silent you are,
the more accurately defined will reality be known and seen, without imposition or
supposition.

Our mind and the world are connected as one like the ends of a single line, dual
as the perceiver and the perceive but really one, without real division of 'self'
from the world. The perceiver perceived as a separate 'self' impairs perception,
and is an illusion. It blocks and taints clear perceiving of reality. Meditation
helps to dissolve this illusion, by perceiving the workings of perceiving itself,
by realising that there is only perceiving without any perceiver.

When we truly realise this, we attain the 'beginner's mind' as taught in Zen,
that is able to respond instantly, appropriately and selflessly to all experiences
without needless mental proliferations based on the illusion of 'self'. Free from
this delusion, we will be able to be fully absorbed, engaged in whatever we are
experiencing and doing. This is authentic enlightened living!

If this world perceived with delusion seems 'real',
a Pure Land without delusion is even more real.

- Anonone

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Monday, 3 October 2011

Joke of The Month

Psychiatric Evaluation
The teenage boy seemed placid as I approached his hospital bed to give him a psychiatric
evaluation. His mother was seated nearby, immersed in her knitting.

I walked over and introduced myself to the boy. He looked right through me and started
screaming: “I can’t see! I can’t see!”

I had never witnessed such a dramatic example of hysterical blindness.
“How long has this been going on?” I asked his mother.

Without looking up, she replied, “Ever since you stepped in front of his television.”

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Communication: The Foundation of Strong Relationships

“The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t being said.”
-Anonymous

The strength and endurance training in any and all relationships starts and ends
with the capacity for communication. I have often called our communication skills
the currency of a relationship, because it is literally the air that lives between
people that makes their relationship vital or suffocating. It is perhaps the most
complex set of skills that healthy relationships require because it is close to
impossible to speak in such a way that you cannot be misunderstood. This is not
only because our spoken words make up only a small fraction of the myriad ways
we communicate. We also communicate through our tone of voice, facial expressions
and body language.

The biggest complication is that we often communicate without fully understanding
the needs, desires and judgments we are expressing.

It is no wonder that communication issues are frequently identified as the most
challenging aspect of relating and the place where relationships falter. We
stubbornly hang onto the belief that if we have expressed ourselves clearly,
the communication is made. This belief overlooks the fact that other people can
only hear you when they are moving towards you, which is usually not happening
when they feel like they are being pursued by your words. The healing revelation
in relationships occurs when we recognize that the most powerful experience in
communicating happens through listening and not expression.

Learning to listen is not an easy skill to develop and is arguably in short supply
in many relationships and even in life itself. To listen well we must begin by
recognizing that the most important thing we give to someone we love is our full
attention, free of judgment and expectation. We must be willing to open to the
loving silence which real listening requires. Cultivating this internal quiet
slows down the interaction so that you hear not just the words, but the meaning
behind them. Communication transforms into connection when we listen not for what
someone knows but for who they are.

This kind of communication is the moment our relationships create grace. It carries
a truly magnetic current that pulls both people into full presence and allows both
parties to unfold and know themselves and each other. Truth telling, even the most
difficult truths are able to be expressed in the shelter of this being heard,
which is so similar to being loved that most people can’t tell them apart.

The following story has many classic communication issues. Which can you identify?
How do the communications get crossed between them? How do they misinterpret this
miscommunication? Where is the breakthrough?


Jenny didn’t hear her voice getting louder the way Mark did. He never raised
his voice and went from annoyed to stony in a matter of minutes when Jenny’s
requests got loud. She had grown up in a house where people yelled all the time.
At good moments between them, they laughed at what a cruel trick their marriage was
- they couldn’t have been any more different… But more often their arguments took
more of their attention.

In truth they had never really understood how to talk to each other. They shared
a simmering attraction and deep tenderness for each other but their communication
was usually a mess. Jenny would ask Mark to do things with her around the house
and invite him to do special things like drive to the beach. She was convinced
she was clear, but it seemed like almost every plan she envisioned with him went
a different way. He would show up late with the paint and with the wrong color
or invite his best friend to come to the beach with them. Mark usually had no
idea that Jenny was frustrated. He thought she was just moody.

Each time she communicated the edge between them seemed to grow in her mind.
Even small requests like taking out the garbage or picking up dinner started
with an elevated tone that Jenny didn’t even hear and that sent Mark further
away from her.

Mark’s retreat only confirmed for Jenny that he never listened to her or even
cared about what she said. For his part, Mark just was trying to stay out of the
line of fire, as it seemed to him, he couldn’t do anything right.

One evening, Jenny broke down in the kitchen after a particularly painful argument.

She felt terrible about the mean things she had said to Mark, but she wanted to
hurt him the way she felt hurt and abandoned. She sat crying with her head in
her hands. Mark sat down next to her. Neither one spoke. The silence between
them softened and Mark put his hand on her leg.

Jenny looked up and saw him holding her in his gaze with no malice. He said,
“I am not trying to hurt you, really. I guess I don’t know how to listen to you.”
Jenny cried harder and leaned into Mark’s chest.

“I didn’t know how to tell you how much I wanted you to hear me.” She said.

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