Friday, 28 September 2012

The soul has its own music that can only be hinted at through words.
I am not speaking of religious epiphanies, though they are very real.
In most people’s lives the growth of consciousness doesn’t move by
epiphany. Someone might have a breakthrough or a turning point that
feels as if he or she were directly touched by spirit. But for the
most part consciousness grows and deepens by degrees.

What science can’t explain, it doesn’t see. This includes beauty,
devotion, faith, inspiration, nobility, compassion, empathy, fate,
intuition, and love itself. Are we really claiming these as fictions
or illusions? In fact, they make life worth living.

I venture to argue that the view I’ve just outlined–that the soul
is the origin of consciousness–appears in every spiritual tradition.
The fact that it is distorted in popular religion and dismissed by
science is a matter of politics, not a matter of proof. Religious
thinkers are forced to pretend that their area of ignorance is trivial,
and so must the scientific side.

Yet the areas of ignorance are quite large on both sides. Religious
people refuse to look deeply into consciousness for fear that somebody
will convince them that all their faith in unseen things is superstition,
or worse. The scientific side refuses to admit their ignorance about the
existence of a non-material reality for fear that they will be led into
irrational, wooly thinking.

The way of peace aims for the very heart of reality. No one is entitled
to a fixed opinion about the outcome, because each journey is unique.
Everything is shaped to who you are. Yet the journey is also universal.

Adapted from: Peace is the Way, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2005).

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Thursday, 27 September 2012

冥冥之中姻缘是否天注定？

关于姻缘，众多男女求问。
有句话郑博士相信很多朋友听说：十年修得同船渡，百年修得共枕眠。
从命理学来看，男女会成为夫妻，除了爱情，也需要缘份。在世间寻寻觅觅，怎么会遇到他（她）？
是否在冥冥之中，姻缘早已天注定？

以佛教的观点，爱情本质上是“愿力”和“业力”的结合。那么，什么是“愿力”和“业力”呢？
郑博士解析朋友们听：

所谓“愿力”，是主动积极的力量，源自内心的“意愿”；所谓“业力”是被动不自主的力量，
也是源自内心，但却是“不愿”。两者力量会促使爱情的发生。

就“愿力”来说，如一对夫妻感情本来很恩爱，更希望来生续为夫妻，故在佛前发愿，希望来生
再为夫妻，甚至生生世世都为夫妻，永不分离，这种愿力，将来时机成熟后就会发生（不管人
变成什么模样）。或者今生相爱至深，因战乱或家庭反对，以致今生无缘的男女情人，两人相互
约定，希望下辈子再来成为夫妻。因为彼此都惦记这个约定，故在轮回中两人再次相遇，会有
似曾相识的熟悉感，甚至很快便决定共渡一生。

不过，还一种情况，因受到对方的恩惠，无以回报，如生病被救活，或帮忙偿还债务，或者救回
爹娘至亲，故愿意来生做牛做马回报，所以因为感恩报恩的心愿，来生可能成为妻子侍候，
心甘情愿，毫无怨言，这种“愿力”经过多生多世之后，仍会发生。

就“业力”来说，如一个人欠下巨债，无以偿还，虽然今生至死都没有还清债务（有些人还故意拒还），
然后就有一股力量，在未来世发生作用。如果是成为夫妻的情况，先生（太太）便有一种无奈，
为何太太（先生）老是折磨他呢？他一点办法也没有，只有痛苦往肚吞，承受这样压力，两个就
成了怨偶。

又如果在过去生本来为夫妻，先生曾遗弃太太（如另结新欢，或恶意遗弃，或出家隐居）造成太太
的怨怼，于是业力的牵引下，今生他便可能遭另一半的遗弃（或者被折磨，以了宿债），这种“业力”，
不管天涯海角，时空转变，不管变成什么样子，还是会发生。

由于愿力和业力的相互作用，加上男女习性、家庭、教育、观念等不同，并且还和其他人的牵扯，
交错复杂，因此男女之间便产生不同的形式，也构成大千世界男男女女之间的情爱了。
下面，郑博士特别转载一篇素墨女子的文章，相信朋友们看了后会有感受：

如果我的胃生病了，我会因为它给我带来痛苦就一刀把它切掉吗？不会的！我会更精心地呵护它，
为它上药，期盼它早日康复。我的爱人，当你出现问题时，我只会把你当作我身体的一部分，
把你当作生病了想。我应该把更多的爱与关怀给你。如果我因为你感情出轨就意气用事，就像
剁掉我的手脚一样，我会快乐吗？不会，肯定不会！那会为我带来更多的痛苦与不便。我坚信
你会好起来的，我永远不会舍弃你，你和我永远不会分开。

（一）第一次煎熬
我原本有一个让人羡慕的三口之家。先生有一家属于自己的公司，年幼的儿子长得活泼可爱。
平日，先生忙工作，我白天上班，晚上就照顾家庭和孩子，全心全力的支持着先生，爱护着家。
那时，我们夫妻很恩爱，是朋友们交口称赞的榜样夫妻。

但在一年前，我们的感情却出现了裂痕，家庭也摇摇欲坠。先生回来得越来越晚，最早也要十二点钟，
深夜二、三点回来，更是家常便饭。终日酒气熏天，喝得烂醉，吐得满地污秽，而我则天天为他
酒后驾车担心不已。

不仅如此，他醉酒回家后，还开始打人。一次、两次，我默默忍了，心想他的工作压力太大，
脾气变得不好，情有可原。但一次我竟在深夜，接到一个陌生女人打给他的电话。当对方一听
是我接电话，便马上挂断。

种种与往日的不同的迹象，越来越让我觉得不对头。之后，我终于发现，在我们婚姻生活中，
出现了第三者。当我得知他在感情出现问题后，我的生活，一下子变了味道，每天就像和自己
过不去似的，一定要等他回到家才肯睡觉，把自己搞得精疲力竭。心情压抑不算，换回的，
却是他一脸的冷若冰霜和一次又一次的争吵。我彷徨了，在我人生道路不知如何走下去的时候，
我竟意外的接触到了佛法，并打算把佛法的道理真实的运用到生活中，解决我的实际问题。

我决定辞去原本待遇很好的工作，回归家庭，用我的真诚感化他。虽然面对的还是那张冷冷的
面孔和长夜的等候，但每当这时候，我都提起一句教诲：“只看对方的优点，不看缺点”，
我用妇女四德：“妇德、妇言、妇容、妇功”来考评自己，并且下决心一定要尽到做妻子的本分，
不管先生做得怎么样，先把自己做好。

先从“妇言”上下功夫，在语言上尽量做到温柔，多一些关心和感恩的话。起初，他不肯接受，
说你这些都是假惺惺。我想“行有不得，反求诸已”，你说不好，我改。尽量多用行动去关心他。
比如，夜深了，先生还没有回家，我先把自己的心定下来，不再给他乱打电话，不再胡思乱想。
利用这段时间，把家里打扫得干干净净，物品摆放得整整齐齐。当他进家门时，我笑脸迎上去，
帮他放下提包，送上一杯热茶，再端上一盆暖暖的洗脚水，帮他按摩。

记得有一次，他很晚都没有回家，我担心他陪客户没有吃饱，于是就为他准备一碗面汤，发一个
短信给他：“夜深了，工作在外的你辛苦了，给你准备了一碗面，希望你能够趁热吃下”。就在我
这个短信发出没有多久，他竟然真回家了。

我很吃惊，问他，“你怎么这么快就回来了？”他说：“看了你给我发的短信，我知道家里还有
一个人在深夜等候着我，我想我得赶快回家了！”看着他趁热吃下了面的样子，我心里高兴得不得了。
就这样通过不断努力，先生回家的时间不断提前。原来深夜一、二点钟，后来到十一、十二点，
再到孩子睡觉前，再后来是能够回家吃晚饭，陪孩子玩一玩。

有一次，他特别早回家，一下拉我到沙发上坐下。他说：“这些日子里，我一直有些话要跟你说，
我今天实在忍不住了，我真诚的向你道歉。我伤害了你，可这段时间你还能这样细心地照顾我，
我真的惭愧得无地自容，我真诚请求你的原谅。从今以后，我再也不会伤害你了，不再与外面
的人联系了，也一定不再醉酒了。”

这时，我从他的眼神中读到了真诚，泪水充满了我的双眼。生活真的像老师教给我们的那样：
“各相责，天翻地覆；各自责，天清地宁”。

（二）再次沦陷
讲到这里，大家是不是都在为我高兴啊？心中可能会想，你的故事可能到此结束了吧？其实还没有。
在我们平静而快乐地度过了几个月之后，我又发现，他再一次外遇，我也就再一次陷入了感情的低谷。
于此时，我开始质疑自己以前的种种付出，开始质疑老师的教导用在先生这种人身上是不是不灵验。
心里在埋怨：“我对他这样好，却换来无止境的背叛，这次我一定要和他离婚。”

经过一段时间的内心挣扎，我突然间明白了一个道理，不管他做得对不对，我一定要做对，再试一次。
心归于平静的时候，行为也就开始平静。没有大吵大闹，还是一如既往。但我还是个凡人，在我安静地
做这些事的时候，外表虽平静，但内心却鲜血淋漓。外人看我很少说话，很少笑，因为我实在笑
不出来啊。我就这样默默做着，默默忍耐和等待着。

生活过得静悄悄，他终于忍不住了，大发脾气，责问我这些天怎么变得这样？我想这下机会来了，
便问他是否再一次背叛家庭。开始，他满脸惊讶，继而是满嘴谎言。当我把证据拿出来时，他又是
一脸的惊恐与百般抵赖，甚至马上翻脸说，这些种种都是因为我有外遇。

在那一瞬间，险些要万念俱灰的我费尽心力，还是把持一句“行有不得，反求诸已”。我只是淡淡
说道：我知道你跟我说的都是谎言，但是不管你怎样欺骗我，怎样伤害我，我都会原谅你。
因为在我心中，你就是我，而我就是你，我们夫妻本是一体，我已经把你当作我身体五脏六腑其中
的一个器官。其实我早就知道，你再一次发生了感情的问题，我一直在内心深处问着自己，如果我的
胃生病了，我会怎么去做？我会因为它给我带来痛苦就一刀把它切掉吗？我的一双手，一双脚
生病了，我会一刀剁掉吗？不会的，我一定不会，我会更加精心地呵护它，为它上药，每天关注它，
期盼它早日康复。我把你当作我的胃，当作我的一双手、一双脚，当你出现问题时，我只会把你
当作我的一部分，把你当作生病了想，我应该把更多的爱与关怀给你。如果我因为你感情出轨就
意气用事，就像剁掉我的手脚一样，我会快乐吗？不会，肯定不会！那会为我带来更多的痛苦与不便。
我坚信你会好起来的，我永远不会舍弃你，我们永远不会分开。最后我还请你原谅，前一段时间
我的少言寡语，因为我毕竟是一个凡人，我默默照顾你的时候，心里却在流着血，我实在是说笑
不出来啊！”

当我讲完这段话的时候，先生已经是泪流满面。我有生以来，第一次看到一个男人如此痛哭流涕，
他一下子把我揽入怀中，动情地说：“你放心吧，这一生我只爱两个人了，一个你，另一个就是我们
的孩子。”从此以后，先生真的是改变了，早早地回家，周末也会待在家中。问他为什么不出去，
他说：外面没有意思，没有在家里好。

他还努力学习打扫房间，时不时还会做饭给我与孩子。晚上只要有时间，就会陪着我与孩子出去
散步，有一次甚至打来一盆洗脚水到我的面前，说“你每天也够辛苦的，我也应该为你打一盆水了。”
此时，我的内心感到无比的感动与幸福！

很多人都说，我要我的爱人全心全意的爱我，那我们反问自己，是否全心全意的去爱过他？
想要获得对方的爱，那我们一定要先去播撒爱的种子在爱人的心田。这是一颗什么样的种子呢？
是一颗包容、无私、慈悲、不求回报的种子。爱是用心去感受，是让所爱的人感受到温暖，
我愿这颗爱的种子能够在所有人心中生根发芽，开花结果。

郑博士点评：
1、婚姻是由于人们内在的爱欲需求，累世的会聚因缘，以及业力的牵引，导致今生男女两人遇合，
组成家庭，乃至生儿育女。这中间，有其必然的因果关联。一对美满的家庭如此，一段痛苦的婚姻
也有其必然性。所谓“种瓜得瓜，种豆得豆”。
2、婚姻的美满与痛苦，来自各人前世与今生的行为和造作，非是上天安排，也非他人强加。
故每个人都要为自己过去、现在、将来的行为负责。
3、关于爱情和婚姻，其实天底下任何男女都需要记住：当有人伤害我们的时候，我们应该想的是
度他（她），而不是报复，或者忍气，因为众生本一体。


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Tuesday, 25 September 2012

have not been blogging for some time.. yesterday, a "unique" girl
(i try not to use the word weird) message me in one of the social
network.. i read her long profile with interest as she seems to be
living in her own world.. lolz..

one of the "unique" thing that caught my attention is she feel that
wearing slipper and t-shirt outside the house is horrible.. now, some
of my friend who know me well know that i adore the unique and hate
following the trend and common stuff.. but not basic necessities like
t-shirt and slipper..

below is our conversation and i shall named her Miss L

Me:
ic.. i read ur profile.. i think im not fit to be ur fren for i wear
tshirt n slipper while having kopi in e kopitiam down my blk.. :)

Miss L:
Ok :) sorry to hear that... but I cannot stand men without a sense of
what looks good on them, and what you described looks horrible to me.

Me:
lolz.. wat i think really look ugly in a person is an ugly heart..
alright all the best to find ur mr right :)

Miss L:
I prefer to be with people with images to maintain, not people with no
sense of good style.

Me:
alright :) none of my ex gf had said that to me. sincerely hope u can
find a guy who is as extreme as u. i wonder do people wear designer tshirt
at home and how troublesome it is for your man get all dress up with
leather shoe juz for a 5mins trip to the grocery store keke..

Miss L:
There are lotsa things your gf couldn't tell u. That's why she's an ex.

Me:
i would appreciate if you don't assume that there're lotsa of thing my ex
did't tell me. :) spend more time looking for your mr right for i see that
most house have slippers outside their door, gd luck.

Miss L:
Nah.... i shouldn't have casted pearls before swine, and unlike you, i can
many things at once.

Me:
i do feel for u.. really.. that's why my reply yet again which is unusual
of me.. u making assumption of me again.. i really hope you get the middle
path and not stick to any extreme..

Miss L:
I've already deleted yr conversation a few times when you indicated you
don't make efforts in dressing which is extreme in my view. Why do you
still pursue it?

Me:
believe it or not, i just trying to help you see how you can widen your
chance to meet your mr right, i can understand a gal same age, also single
like me feel. as long u found a gd hearted guy who dress well when with
you is ok, don't have to be so extreme and perfectly dressed all e times.
i don't think i dress horribly in my profile pic. alright this my last msg

Miss L:
A china man who earns only 5k a month would dress like that.

Miss L:
It's not the money... it's the sharpness. Your dress sense isn't european-
like. Try the local brand domanchi.

Me:
lolz.. sorry i cant help but reply yet again.. since i dressed so horribly
like a china man then why did you bother to msg me in e 1st place!!? all my
colleagues even my boss dress like tat.. just normal biz wear shirt and pant..
my dad is from china, isnt your ancestor? what wrong being a china man?
and pls, this is spore, not europe, majority of the people here is chinese

Miss L:
Nothing wrong with being a chinaman who's rich and dresses without the taint
of coarse taste.

Miss L:
Nothing wrong with a chinaman who's poor but dresses with exquisite taste.

Miss L:
The only thing is the lack of desire to acquire a discerning eye for what's
classic and what's merely average.

Me:
alright miss l, spare me.. u continue to find your exceptional
prince, i continue to be myself being simple, neat and tidy which i have
no problem with any lady i met so far.. ok? thanks..

from the above conversation, one can see that she is on the extreme end,
stubborn and like to make assumption.. he assume that china man who earn
only 5k monthly dressed "poorly"..(poorly as in normal office wear, shirt
and pant) and then she went back to nothing wrong with a china man who's
poor but dresses with exquisite taste.. isn't she contradicting herself..
i do feel for her.. gave her some of my thoughts, but look like it's playing
music to the cow.. lolz..

how exquisite can you expect a poor china man to dress? ha.. sadly, people
nowadays are so superficial.. only focus on the external beauty and neglect
the inner beauty which is the most important.. a poor man with no proper
clothing and worn-out slipper who help out another poor is far more
beautiful than a well-dressed man who is arrogant and snobbish..

oh btw, she's 32, single and still a virgin.. any guy who has an exceptional taste
as her and wish to know her more, i don't mind being the cupid.. ^_^

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Monday, 10 September 2012

日日夜夜思念你　真心真愛不是假
海風冷冷　陪伴阮歸暝　為何心事這呢多
快樂心情欲叨找　甘講註定歹命底
阮的感情　只有你詳細　為何見面講無話

愛情的酒攏袂退　醉到何時才會醒
感情這呢長　青春這呢短　不通放阮孤一個
愛情的酒攏袂退　傷心何時才會過
心內的話　還剩這呢多　欲講恐驚無機會

愛情的酒攏袂退－黄乙玲　词曲：李秉宗　专辑：愛情的酒攏袂退　发行：1994年12月

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Sunday, 9 September 2012

"Why We Shout In Anger"

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group
of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other.
He turned to his disciples smiled 'n asked.

'Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?'

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm,
we shout.'

'But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you?
You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.' asked the
saint

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally the saint explained, .

'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot.
To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other.
The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each
other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other
but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between
them is either nonexistent or very small...'

The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens?
They do not speak, only whisper 'n they get even closer to each other in
their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other
'n that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'

He looked at his disciples and said.

'So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words
that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the
distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.'

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Thursday, 6 September 2012

「悲伤」不是因为伤得多深，而是因为不肯走出..



相信每个人 都能渴望有天长地久的爱情，
但爱情这回事向来 都不是天长地久的，
天有多长，地有多久 根本就没人知道，
因为早在你我出现以前，
世间早就存在着天与地了…

最不幸的爱情 往往在还没开始以前就结束了，
最痛苦的爱情 是两个不相爱的人却走在一起，
最无奈的爱情 是两个相爱的人却始终无缘相守..
最痛心的爱情 是一个人爱上了一个不爱他的人，
最真挚的爱情 是两个相爱的人能够走在一起，
最幸福的爱情 是两个相爱的人能一起走到老…

但无论哪一种爱 都酝酿着幸福，
无论是哪一种爱 都蕴涵着悲伤，
天长地久也有时尽，
人们的喜怒哀乐又何尝不是呢？
除了已经发生过的事情，
这世上没有什么是永恒不变的，
既然不能改变已经发生了的事情，
为什么不把自己的精力，
用来改变可以改变的未来呢？

「悲伤」不是因为一个人 被一个人伤得多深，
而是一个人宁可选择悲伤 却不选择摆脱..
人们总喜欢沉溺于从前那幸福的幻觉，
又或者是憧憬着还未发生的朦胧未来，
却又迟迟不肯改变眼前的一切困境..

埋怨是因为不肯付出努力，
在看见别人得到幸福时，
千万别怪老天不公平，
因为在你忙着埋怨的时候，
他已经选择了努力地改变一切…

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Tuesday, 4 September 2012

6 Lessons from 30 Years of Marriage

My lovely wife and I will be celebrating 30 years of marriage this week.
We’ve had a fantastic journey, with our share of ups and downs, plenty of
romance mixed in with rocky times, lots of joy, and a few painful challenges,
but all in all we are delighted with the life we’ve shared together so far.

We are continually amazed at how each year finds us closer and more in love
than the year before, and although it is hard to imagine, we both feel that
the best years of our marriage are yet to come. That’s how I think it
should be.

Sadly, I often see marriage portrayed as all downhill after the honeymoon.
I hate to hear couples reminisce about the early years of young love,
mourning as if the best days are over and gone. I was further disturbed
by several articles I read recently that suggest the seven-year itch has
now become the three-year itch.

So is less sex, more fights, poorer communication, and drifting apart
really the inevitable? With a nod to the movie Date Night, is it really
just a matter of time before couples settle for becoming just “excellent
roommates”?

I say no!

Whether you have been together six months or six decades, it is possible
to see your future as one filled with excitement, passion, and great
potential. I would like to share with you a few key principles that my wife
and I have discovered as we have endeavored to keep our relationship vibrant
and fresh over the past 30 years.

1. Look at Your Past Thankfully

Stay in awe of your spouse, the love you share, and the life you have
built together through good times and tough times. Remain thankful for
who your spouse is, and remind yourself of the reasons you were drawn
to him or her in the first place. Gratitude keeps you focused on what is
good in your relationship and helps keep resentment from building up.

Thankfulness is a habit that has to be cultivated rather purposefully.
It is pretty easy to find problems to complain about, to fixate on missing
components of your marriage, or dwell on your frustrations. However,
you can totally shift the atmosphere between you by keeping your mind
on the positive and by daily telling your spouse something you are thankful
for about your relationship.

2. Look at Your Future Expectantly

It is great to fondly reflect on the good times of your past, but it’s not
healthy to fixate on some idealized notion that things would be better if
you could somehow go back to how it used to be. Instead, choose to believe
that the best is always ahead of you. Whether you have been through rough
patches or have sailed through blissfully, expect your future to beat
anything you have had before.

It really is possible for you to have more passion, deeper intimacy,
new levels of trust, and an infinite variety of untried adventures ahead
of you. Just decide to go for it, and then relentlessly pursue each other
for life.

3. Look at Your Spouse Selflessly

If you have a habit of holding your spouse responsible for your happiness,
you definitely need to learn to take that responsibility upon yourself.
However, remember that if you view your marriage as being mostly about
your rights and what you get out of the bargain, in the long run you are
going to end up bitter and disappointed.

On the other hand, if you see your marriage primarily as an opportunity to
selflessly love and generously serve your wife or husband to the best of
your ability, you will the reap long-lasting benefit of a strong and close
relationship. Don’t buy the lie that a 50/50 marriage is ideal. Instead,
go for 100/100, where each of you holds nothing back and gives all you have
to the other.

4. Look at Your Self Realistically

It pays to have a sober view of your self, being neither overly harsh
nor blind to areas you need to work on. Dr. David Schnarch, a clinical
psychologist and author of Passionate Marriage, describes marriage as
the ultimate people-growing machine. I agree. Every healthy relationship
grows and changes over time, and if you want your marriage to stay strong,
you have to be willing to grow and change along the way too.

For the most part we don’t like change, but realize that you are a work
in progress, as is your marriage. You are not yet fully all you can be,
and neither is your relationship. Regardless of how great it has been,
there is always more, but achieving more may require you to change and
grow. You can remain pliable and teachable without losing who you are.

5. Look at Your Relationship Frequently

Watchfulness keeps you from becoming excellent roommates. It requires you
to keep your eyes and your heart wide awake to all that is going on in
and around you. Consistently ask questions like “how are we doing?” and
“is there something more you need from me?”

Being watchful means keeping yourself and your marriage off of autopilot.
Guard your thoughts about your spouse—cultivate thankfulness and fight
against selfish thoughts. Work to eliminate emotional reactivity, and
cultivate positive emotions like love and compassion. Stay attuned to
your sexual relationship, fueling the fires of your desire and passion.
Realize that what is or is not happening in the bedroom often mirrors
the rest of your relationship. Make sure your spiritual relationship
stays strong.

6. Look Up Continually

This is the last of the six principles, but for my wife and me it is also
the most important. We are made up of body, soul, and spirit, and we are
careful to keep the spiritual component of our marriage front and center,
which means we keep the future of our marriage in God’s (or however you
describe your personal spiritual beliefs) hands.

Whether you know him personally or not, God is for your marriage. He wants
you to succeed. It is his desire that your relationship stay strong and
endure long, and not just because you both made a lifelong covenant before
him, but also because he wants your marriage to be a source of joy and
strength, passion, and love.

Keep your eyes focused on him, trust in his plans for the future of your
marriage, and believe that he has great things in store for you. As you
observe your marriage from these six viewpoints and refuse to accept the
inevitability of marital decline, you will be able to declare, with
confidence, that your best years as a couple are still in front of you.
As we celebrate 30 years this week, my wife and I will be doing just that.

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